Continuing with our #upliftthefellas2018 mode, this post is dedicated to the faith-based men. For a while, I didn’t really take into consideration the faith of the men I would talk to or date. Often, I would pray before meals when on a date and would catch them bowing their heads at the last minute in respect, I guess because the initiative was never taken to pray over the meal by any of the guys, I didn’t stop to include them. I would then apologize with the sentiment that I didn’t want to seem like I was pushing an agenda or religious habit on to them.
However, as I continue to grow deeper into my faith, I started to realize just how important it is to me to have a partner grounded in spirituality and with God. I know that I give thanks and praise to Him for getting me up in the morning, allowing me to rest my head at night and every experience in between, so not being able to share that same outlook on life with someone I’m dating seems problematic when it’s such a large part of my life.
Don’t get me wrong, I have seen the men in my life praise and worship God but it always seemed like a private. As if I was catching them in a moment I shouldn’t be watching. Especially growing up Catholic, where our testaments were never public knowledge of the way God was working in our lives. It was like I knew they had faith but it was never out loud, always silent, private unless we were blessing dinner. Even as I got to college, I only knew of a few men that went to church regularly. It wasn’t until I moved to New York that I met and saw men of all races, ages and sexualities praising, worshiping and speaking their testaments into the atmosphere. That I realized the importance of praying together and for each other.
Fellas, if you find yourself reading this and trying to recall the last time you went to a church, mosque, or temple of worship it may be time to give faith another try as an adult. To build a relationship with God not based on your parents’ or grandparents’ beliefs but on your own. Speaking from experience, it is a different world when you venture into spirituality on your own accord and dictate your journey. Try out different types of sanctuaries, denominations, and faiths until you find one that feels right for you. You just might experience an unexpected shift in your life.
Three women going through life.