Look, we need to talk. While I hope this isn’t an issue affecting the larger male population but.. please, I beg, stop talking to me if you are engaged in serious relations with another woman. One, it is disrespectful and two, it’s degrading. I understand that you may have an open relationship, or you are having problems right now; however, I never asked to be a part of your narrative.
In the past few weeks I have been approached and pursued by men that only after my own inquires turned out to be either married or in a serious relationship. I know that there are women out there that may be okay with entertaining that for a free meal or a few dates, but I was raised right, believe in karma and would never want to think that my (future) man would be out there selling hoop dreams to some girl without any regard or loyalty to me. I am often questioned by others as to why I am not big on dating and with instances like this time and time again, why would I want to put myself in a position where I am in a constant disarray at the mere thought of a man’s relationship status? Imagine finding out that the man that claims to care about you is collecting some girl’s number and telling her how he’d like to take her out for a nice evening on the town if she was willing.
If you are looking for a way to escape from your everyday life or just to check if you still have it, please stop dragging us into a black hole that will lead to nothing but disappointment and disgust. If you are out there laughing or rolling your eyes at this post I want you to imagine a man treating your mother or sister the way you are choosing to treat your own woman. I am tired of hearing the backlash. especially when it comes to you claiming that this isn’t your fault or you just do it for the thrill of the chase and you aren’t actually planning on continuing on with the ‘adventure’ after you part ways. I get that maybe you want to feel like you still got it, but it shouldn’t come at the expense of the woman at home that loves you or the woman whose emotions you are toying with.
Three women going through life.