For the past few weeks you’ve seen it all, the subtle hints, the red and pink grocery displays and daily reminders. The second Sunday of February has been following you around like a lost puppy. You have six days until the day of love rears it’s head and if you are in a situationship, relationship, engaged, or married; more likely than not, there are some expectations in the air.
If you haven’t solidified your Valentine’s Day plans fear not! We are here to give you some key points to keep in mind this Valentine’s Day, especially if you decided to wait till the last minute to make plans.
First things first: KYG --- Know Your Girl
One thing that is really important for Valentine’s Day is to know your special lady. While this includes knowing her favorite wine, candy, perfume and/or flowers; also knowing what she doesn’t like is important. If she doesn’t like flowers… do not send her any. Yes, the gesture is nice, but it's also great knowing that you put some thought into the gift and not sending them because ‘that’s what you’re supposed to send’. Another good thing to know is how she wants to be loved. If you know when she feels most loved it is easier to figure out what to do for V-day (and any other celebration). If she is all about quality time, maybe plan a weekend get-a-way or a spa day for just the two of you. If she loves receiving gifts, think of the things that remind you of her/your relationship and find a way to incorporate those gifts into the day. Discover both of your love languages here.
Secondly remember: THIS IS NOT ABOUT YOU!
Sorry to break it to you but, it's not. I understand that you would like an ROI (return on investment) and it will come eventually however, do not expect it on February 14th. Even if the one you are celebrating with does not want a huge celebration or to make it a big deal, be sure to do something. It could be a simple card or acknowledgment that this day is silly and your love for one another is to be celebrated year round. Just remember that this day about her… not you. Always remember what man gives to a woman she will make greater.
Say this with me: Plan Plan Plan
If you’re reading this there is a high chance that you still haven’t solidified your plans. That’s okay… there’s still time. Please, have plans in advance and let her know that you have plans. Think about letting her know how she should dress for the occasion. For example, if you are going to a fancy dinner—let her know to be dressed up, if you are going to watch her favorite basketball team play—tell her to be comfy cute, if you are going hiking—let her know you’ll be in the great outdoors. By helping her know how to dress for the occasion, but not necessarily telling her what you’ll be doing it allows her to speculate, while leaving an element of surprise. She will be impressed that you have taken the time to plan out a special day just for the two of you. Also, very important: this year Valentine’s Day is on Sunday, be sure to give her a heads up on the timeframe so she isn’t waiting around all day.
Finally realize: There are levels of relationships/expectations
Talk about where you are in your relationship and what the expectations are. It is important to make sure that you are both on the same page. If you think ya’ll are working towards a relationship, and she thinks you are just casually dating (or vice versa) this day could get really sticky and end up with pints of ice cream and RomComs. Recognizing where you are in the relationship will also help measure expectations of what to do and expect. If you are not in a relationship, you do not have to ring all the bells and whistles for Valentine’s Day, nor should it be expected. However, if you are in a relationship please don’t do the same thing you did last year. It kind of feels like it’s the easy way out, and that you didn’t remember it was coming up.
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