“Love never happens when you want it or when you expect it.”
Dear Future Husband,
Prayer has always played a huge role in my life. Most of my strongest personal relationships are mirrored after my relationship with God. I share the good, bad and ugly with the man above, and we speak often: in the car, when I wake up in the morning, before I eat, while I’m walking down the street—essentially, all the time. When Chance the Rapper proclaimed he speaks to God in public I couldn’t help but to shout “Yass, me too!”.
So, what does that have to do with you? Well, we also talk about you, often. I pray for you every day, because while I may not know who you are or where you are, I do know that He is taking his time, crafting the greatest story of our lives. My prayers are not only for you, but also for His guidance for my actions and decisions and that He brings us together when we are both present and ready for us to begin our journey.
Most days I wonder if I'm doing everything entirely wrong or completely right.
I’ll admit, most days I wonder if I’m doing everything entirely wrong or completely right. As I watch acquaintances, friend and family members begin their romantic relationships, sometimes I allow my doubts to creep in and kick my soul around a bit. However, for any of you out there in similar positions, remember that God has a plan for your life. It will unfold in the most magnificent of ways if you stay steady in your faith and pay attention to the signs that He is leaving out there for you. So, when doubt creeps in, I pray that God continues to work on me, and that He prepares me to be the wife that you not only want, but need.
One day, He compelled me to write down a list of things that I want from you. When I started writing, I realized that the list was not about the physical aspects I desired, rather, the purpose of this list was to write down the characteristics that I would like you to possess. Funny thing, once I completed this list my prayers changed. These weren’t only things I want you to bring to the table, but also things that I needed to ensure that I can bring as well. So, I pray that I am not a dime looking for a dollar bill. I pray that all the things that I want from my significant other, I too, can bring to the table. How can I want something that I cannot give in return?
... for one reason or another, a full-fledged relationship was never in the cards.
I’m not sure if we already know each other, just met or have no idea that the other exists; but when our chapter 1 starts, I pray that we are both ready. I have never been the ‘relationship type’. My focus has always been directed elsewhere. The men in my life have been wonderful lessons and blessings because they have all helped to craft the woman that stands in front of you today. However, for one reason or another, a full-fledged relationship was never in the cards. In part, I believe it’s because I was not ready to fully commit myself to anyone other than me. This ‘selfishness’ has helped me understand who I am as a person, what I like, my strengths and weaknesses, and what I can bring to a relationship (sounds like I’m applying to a job right? lol). It has taught me that just like everything else in our lives we will be a choice that we must continue to make every day. I pray that we are ready to choose each other every day.
Dear Future Husband,
I pray for us every day.
I pray for your safety, your wisdom, your hopes, dreams, deepest desires and your openness.
I pray that I am ready to receive and give you the love, support and wisdom that you deserve.
I pray that we are ready to choose each other every day, to be each other’s biggest champions and truth-givers, and to allow God to write the story of our lives.
Most of all I pray that we are both ready for this ride, because I prayed for a long one.
The Future Mrs.
Three women going through life.