We both know: she’s perfect and could make any capable man happy. She’s kind, motivating, smart, beautiful, funny and giving. She remembers your sister’s birthday, that you prefer Stella vs. other beers and that you can’t watch any movie with Mark Wahlberg because ‘there’s something about that guy I just can’t stand’. You know all this; however, for some bizarre reason, you just can’t commit. You don’t know if you’re ready and titles just ‘aren’t your thing’. Please, I beg, Let. Her. Go.
Over the years, I have come to realize that the best relationships don’t come from necessity or because logically it comes next, but because the two people couldn’t imagine themselves with anyone else. If it has been 5 months and you are still dating other people, let her go. Dating is great, but we live in a society of instant gratification and the constant search for more. If you find yourself looking for what she lacks in someone else she isn’t for you, at least not right now.
Think of the other things in your life that you love, would you want anyone else to have them, to have the ability to claim them as their own? If you said no--- think about the women you are dating in your life. Call me old school, but I don’t understand openly dating someone for 10 months, and not getting into a relationship with that person. Sure the time together is great but if you don’t want to whisk her away from the rest of the men out there—let her find someone else and continue your journey to love as well.
Granted, there are no time limits to finding love, and I’m not suggesting that you’ll fall in love with every girl you meet. However, you cannot expect to find it while stringing along 5 women at the same time. It is also a bit preposterous to think that at least one of them won’t fall for you. So please, if it’s been a few months and you still aren’t sure if you want to claim her, let her go. If it’s meant to be, you’ll find each other again.
Three women going through life.