Now let’s get this straight, I’m a supporter of love and all its glory but... I’m also a pragmatist. So I’m just going to kick it straight with you all.
Fellas, listen carefully, there’s absolutely nothing cute about the pseudo terminology “wifey” that you all seem to want to attached to us when we are in a relationship. We see right through this. You referring to us as “wifey” only adds insult to the injury because it simply means you want us to take on the responsibilities of a “wife” without having to officially claim us. I mean let’s be serious, “wifey” is just a hyped-up name for “girlfriend”, and not a “fiancé” nor a “wife”: you know, the woman who has the ring, official title and commitments under the law?!
So, if you are the type of guy who will never put a ring on it, then my friend you have no business pursuing a relationship with a woman who has the desire of getting married one day. You can get out of our lives and keep your “wifey” titles.
Now if you are wondering whether you fit the bill or not, check out the attributes below. Are you:
The guy who says baby you know “I’m just waiting for the right time or I want to be financially ready”
Ha! I had to chuckle a little at this. I mean come on, who are you selling this bullshit of a line to? I bet you think you sound so responsible. You are probably assuring your lady that there is a ‘right’ time, and until you are financially ‘ready’, you cannot take things to the next level, right? Well you couldn’t be more wrong! You and I both know that you are simply just stalling and trying to string her along. Now don’t get me wrong, I’m all for a brother thinking things through and feeling ‘ready’ but let’s be clear, you making these ambiguous statements without providing any timeframe for a marriage or proposal, or actual concrete future plans, only further shows that you have no intentions of committing to your lady. I mean bruh! You wack for using this line.
The guy who thinks it’s cool for his lady to “beg for his time, attention or affection”
If you are this guy, then you are just a coward! Yes, I said it! Like, why string her along if you know that you have zero intentions of meeting her needs? Come on, if you claim to love her then why should she have to beg for your time, attention and affection, or even beg you to meet her family or yours? I mean if she must beg you for damn near every and anything in the relationship, then there’s something seriously wrong-even a blind person could see through this. This is a serious red flag and ladies, if you find yourself in such situation, it is best that you cut your losses now because he is definitely not that into you and won’t give you the commitment that you need.
The guy who wants to “play pretend house but can’t seem to propose”
You know the old saying, “why buy the cow, when you can get the milk for free?” This saying rings true here. This is the kind of guy who enjoys getting free benefits without having to pay the price for it . This is the guy who enjoys “shacking up” because he needs a ‘trial period’ to assure him whether she is the one or not. You see this is a damn shame in my opinion - because it just shows that you do not recognize your woman’s worth and you are simply taking her for granted.
Now I’m not judging anybody’s situation and I recognize that there are some exceptions to the rule. However, if I have to date you for 8 years, play ‘pretend house’ with you for 6 of those years while begging you to make a commitment, then damnit I’d rather be single.
Three women going through life.