Many girls live for the entire Valentine’s day build up: the special text messages, the secrecy around what will happen during that weekend, the extra attention that partners give to each other, and finally the gifts and/or flowers that will be exchanged.
To be completely honest, I’d rather choose gifts over flowers any day. I understand that flowers are symbolic, and when red roses show up to your desk at work from your special someone, you become the most envied woman in the room … that’s all great but just not for me. So many feeling and so much can be communicated through those red roses. Those roses tell everyone who sees them that someone out there loves you. They tell everyone around you that you have someone that you belong to. It tells people that someone thinks that you are special and deserving of roses. Finally they make you feel valued.
But flowers die yall! I don’t even know how else to put it. Flowers die! I am a fan of NOT receiving flowers. Listen - like the next girl, I appreciate a bouquet every now and then, but the fact that no matter how much ‘love and attention’ I put into those babies, they will wilt and die! I like to make it clear when dating someone that in all honesty, it’s better to get me a gift than to get me flowers. Does the gift have to be something expensive? Absolutely not! It could be a cute ‘IOU’ couples coupon book filled with gifts like: personal foot massage when you come home from work, or walks to the park three times this week. It could even be a breakfast in bed surprise! All these ideas to me are worth more than the roses … Sorry ladies who feel differently! I’m just being honest.
So what kind of girl are you? Roses or gift? Let us know in the comments below or over on social media #FearlessGiftGirl or #FearlessRosesGirl and let’s carry on the conversation there!
Three women going through life.