“The standard you walk by is the standard you accept.”
-Lt. General David Morrison
Let’s be real, 2017 has already started off on an interesting note from all sides of the coin. Our attention is being pulled every which way whether it’s on the computer, phone or standing right in front of us. I often find myself wondering how will I know when enough is enough? I heard the quote above while watching “I Am Not Your Negro” and couldn’t help but to write it down.
While Lt. General Morrison used the term standard, I know that we can all relate that to many other words… morals, values, limitations.The things you walk by; the problems that you do not acknowledge are the things you are deciding to accept as the norm. So what is it going to take to make you finally stop and decide that the comments, actions or micro-aggressions that chill you to your bone are enough to make you say or do something? Every act of heroism isn’t televised or written about, but it can start a ripple of change in someone’s actions. It can be the reason they bite their tongue the next time they think about making a sexist joke about women working.
It’s hard and even super awkward most of the time, but that’s the only way I know how to live in my truth. Many times I’ve had to ask for clarification on a side comment or joke because I didn’t understand how oppression is funny. Or why everyone was laughing at the terrorism joke, when we continue to aid in this behavior we are only telling the rest of the world that this is okay. It is not. It’s not okay to qualify a person by their looks before anything else. Or to walk past the puddle of spilled water on the floor because it’s ‘below’ you to clean it up.
Are you living by your standard, morals, and values? Or are you afraid that speaking up will make more waves than you care to show?
Three women going through life.