You know what I’m tired of? Men who do not feel the need to prioritize the women in their lives. I’m sick and tired of the same narrative over and over – “I wish he would just stop and make some time for us”- said every woman I know. Why do we as women have to continually go through this rigmarole? Why is it that we have to continually get hurt and wait for the ‘next guy who will treat us as we deserve?’ I’m so tired of men using women like a paper towel. Good for one or two wipes then to the trash we go. Who made you God and King? What right do you have to use us in this way? To just toy with our emotions and play us like your fiddles? Who gave you this right? You may be reading this and say well, if the woman allows it then it’s her fault. Wrong! Nobody deserves to go through what many women do when it comes to relationships.
What am I ranting about? Well, have you heard the story where a couple that seemed pretty close to perfect, suddenly break up and when you talked to them, you realize that the reason for the break up was weak? Something like we didn’t communicate well or he felt like he hadn’t ‘lived’ yet. Really? So during your entire relationship what were you two doing? Why would you lead a woman on if you knew there was no future? Like bob Marley said “The biggest coward of a man is to awaken the love of a woman without the intention of loving her.” Seriously, I’m so exhausted by the men in the lives of the women around me who choose – yes choose – to just dispose of the women in their lives as though they aren’t of any consequence.
I’m tired of trying to make sense of broken relationships like my own where my ex was clearly selfish. The Bible calls for us to humble ourselves yet many men take their exits in relationships with a haughty spirit and puffed up chest. So you too are hurting from the breakup? Then why are you out here dating and sleeping with a new woman within the month of our break up? Listen, I’m tired. Tired of your weak ass, lame ass, excuses. If you want to go – then leave. If you want to sleep with other people – then say that. I’m tired. Tired of hearing another woman’s story of how the man she was with gave some poor ass excuse as to why he felt the need to end their relationship.
You know what? Man the fuck up! I’m over the memes encouraging women to keep their heads up after a terrible man leaves them. I’m tired of the motivational speakers on Instagram telling us that it’s going to be alright and that we should just sit tight and wait on God’s best. I’m tired of having to smile and be brave when someone asks me how I’m doing now that I’m no longer with my ex. Why couldn’t they be better people? Why couldn’t they make the necessary sacrifices? Don’t tell me that I had to go through it in order to be better. Not today. I’m tired. I’m angry. I’m confused as to how I suffer and he gets to just mess around with other girls and bring our past relationship to nothing.
KARMA is a b**** and I can’t wait to see what she has in store for your ass.
A very tired twenty something
Three women going through life.