“We are in a generation of not being in love and not being together. But we sure make it seem like we’re together, cause we’re scared to see each other with somebody else.”
We stare at our cell phones for hours at a time. Waiting for that text. The text from the person who you’ve been thinking about all night, but refuse to text them again for the fear of looking desperate or thirsty. I am so confused by this idea that wanting to talk to someone or spending your time with a person is a bad thing or something that “we just don’t do”.
We spend our time on Instagram feeds or scrolling through Facebook wanting the appearance of love and relationships (#relationshipgoals), but not wanting to put in the work. It’s either that or you’ve decided that you are going to focus on yourself for the next few years because you don’t want a distraction. It’s okay to put yourself first but it’s also important to realize that you don’t have to do this alone. Wanting to be with someone does not make you weak or distracted. Caring for another human is in our makeup.
When you are surrounded by brouhaha, but somehow find yourself lost in the corn maze of your mind, where are you? What images do you see? Is it them? That person that you have been waiting on to text you, but you’ve already sent two messages to and are afraid they will think you’re ‘riding them’ too hard?
When they finally do respond, will you wait? Yes, but you let some time pass first so that you don’t seem too desperate. Let them believe you were doing other things so that they know you’re not at their beck and call? What game have we all signed up for that encourages waiting to live life? Why have we settled for giving someone only part of us? Allowing them to get to know us in the physical sense but not the emotional or spiritual.
“I don’t know how to talk to you; I just know I found myself getting lost with you.”
Somehow we grew up in the 90s- early 2000s with some of the best RnB classics,and listened to our parents’ favorite 80s jams, but didn’t catch the messaging. We missed where they sang about love, devotion, and most of all vulnerability.
“I think I'd lie for you, I think I'd die for you, Jodeci "Cry For You"
Do things when you want me too”
Incase you missed it...here's what Drake was referring to...
Three women going through life.