"I think it's very healthy to spend time alone. You need to know how to be alone and not defined by another person." -Olivia Wilde
While Heather is speaking to a significant other in this song, I believe that we all need some “me time”. When is the last time you took some time away to figure out who you are, what you want, and what you like outside of the people that have the most influence in your daily life?
We are the summation of the people we surround ourselves with, it is often that we find ourselves doing certain things based on what the people around us are doing versus deciding if this is something we are truly interested in.
In the world that we live in, there is a constant need to be connected. Whether it’s through social media or your mobile device there is no true off switch. Our interests are so heavily influenced by the constant streams of the media telling us what we do and don’t like and what we should be interested in. It’s hard to find the clear line between who you are and who you are conditioned to be. It’s no longer only about keeping up with the Joneses, it’s also this perpetual anxiety that you will be out of the loop, or as many call it FOMO (fear of missing out).
My question to you is, missing out on what? Our lives are not meant to be identical copies of each other’s. Our differences and differentiated opinions and experiences are how we should be growing as people. While yes, the interconnectedness is comforting and nice I often find myself listening to my friends complain about doing things that they damn well could careless about, but they don’t want to miss out on the collective experience. Why watch reality TV shows if you hate them so much? Because that’s what everyone will be talking about on twitter and they don’t want to be out of the loop.
When I hear these conversations I revert back to thinking of all of the other things that they would probably enjoy doing so much more. Instead they are spending hours watching people acting a fool. Don’t get me wrong if that’s what you enjoy doing by all means, but you constantly complain about them...why watch?
Me time is about focusing on you: your wants, needs and desires. What gets you up in the morning and what is your purpose on this earth? I was able to have a year of concentrated ‘me time’ away from everything I knew in which I was blessed to figure out who I am at this stage in my life. It’s good everyone in a while to detox yourself from the the materialistic things in your life to understand what makes you unapologetically you.
Three women going through life.