i'm alone not lonely!

After being in a relationship for a few years, I’m still adjusting to  my newfound single lifestyle. Like seriously, being single at any age can be challenging and difficult, especially in a society that seems to emphasize on the importance of not being alone and finding a #bae. I mean seriously, my IG is filled with #blacklove #coupledomexcursions and #relationshipsgoals. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not hating, I love seeing others find genuine souls they  connect with on a deeper level. It’s a beautiful thing to be in love; it’s also a beautiful thing to be single- if that’s where you are at in life. Don’t let the internet rush you!

It seems like there’s very little support offered to those of us who have decided to put ourselves first and enjoy our own company. The world makes you feel like you have failed or that there is something wrong with you if you do not have a partner---like girl you are in your late 20s and you are nowhere close to getting to the altar or having children? (* cue side eyes and neck rolling*). I think these kinds of remarks are frankly unfortunate and ridiculous, my happiness isn’t defined by the relationships I’m in or the man that I’m with. I have seen more failed marriages collapse by the wayside because they couldn’t pass the test of time or they rushed to fulfill  societal norm. I am in no rush to become someone’s Mrs. and in competition with no one to start popping out babies or even fronting for social media. At the right time and in the right space, Mr. Right will find me. But until then, I am embracing my #singledom and making the most of it! 

 And just because I have chosen to be alone during this moment in my life, it doesn’t mean I am lonely!

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