Cheers to the Queens who raise the status of our culture with a cultivated mind!
This post is not meant to judge anyone or make anyone feel lesser than-- I’m just stating my opinion and sharing my preferences. Let me be clear, it’s important to note that not every woman indulges in such behavior! Now that’s out of the way, can we talk?
What’s up with some women referring to themselves as Bad B*tches? Like seriously, when did the word B*tch become a term of endearment. Is it supposed to be an empowering way to describe a woman who is powerful or beautiful? And are you trying to take something considered to be negative and turn it into something positive? I know some of you may argue with me, and say it all depends on the context in which you use it. Well let me break it down to you, in my opinion there’s absolutely nothing positive about referring to oneself as a bad B*tch or having a man refer to you as such. I don't understand how as women we can demand respect from our male counterparts; but fail to refer to ourselves in a respectful manner. It’s time we dropped this demeaning term from our daily vocabulary.
I guess you are probably wondering what sparked this little rant from me, well let me tell ya! Recently, while scrolling through Instagram, I couldn’t help but notice the overflow of Kardashian look alikes, and so-called Instagram “model” wannabes captioning their overly-sexualized pictures as the “baddest b*tches”. Really girls? I need y’all to have several seats!!! We can blame pop culture and the media for over sensationalizing the word b*tch. I mean you can’t turn on any rap music nowadays without hearing a male rapper spit some bars on a track saying they only want bad b*tches-- cue in ASAP ROCKY. In his rap “F*cken Problems” – he refers to a bad b*tch as the go to girl for his sexual deviancy. No mention of how intelligent or ambitious she is; rather, the focus is on her lady parts and how raunchy she gets in bed. Even your favorite female rappers refer to themselves as bad b*tches and rap about how wetter they can get than a 24 pack of Aquafina (hell naw!). But that’s an entire discussion for another time (side eyes*).
Honestly, the usage of the word (other than describing a female dog) to defining a woman speaks volumes about our current society. Gone are the days were women referred to themselves as Queens and took pride in being women of substance. We’ve spent the last several decades fighting for women’s rights and liberation only to now call ourselves “bad b*tches”? Like for real tho? I know some of y’all out here trying to get your come up as instagram models and video vixens; however, nothing is more powerful than a woman who exudes confidence in the most subtle ways. True beauty is not defined by social media hashtags, likes, followings or exemplified by scantily clad outfits.
It’s absolutely mind boggling that some women actually take pride being called a bad b*tch— rather than a Queen- a woman who knows her worth, she recognizes that her accomplishments are based on her own merits and not on the sex appeal she garners from thirsty male suitors. Whelp call me unpopular because I’d rather be a Queen in a world full of bad b*tches. I don’t need a pseudonym, being a woman alone is powerful and calling yourself otherwise does not measure to your inestimable worth that comes from your Creator. So dears, you can keep your #BadB*tches, #BasicB*tches, #BossB*tches and any other #B*tches hashtags, I’d rather be known as an Ethereal Queen and a Esoteric Goddess.
Shout out to all the women with substance, the Queens who wear their crowns with
pride---Stand in your own radiance!!
The Fearless Queen
Three women going through life.