I consider myself a nomad, I never really stay in one place because I don’t see a reason to. While there are so many positives about living this type of lifestyle there are certainly some downfalls.
The most difficult challenge I have found is cultivating and maintaining friendships. Anyone that knows me will tell you that I have a philosophy on relationships, and their various levels, however that is a post for another day. Today, we are going to discuss the truth about maintaining true and authentic friendships in 2016.
As I mentioned before, I enjoy a change of scenery every now and then. In the past 6 years I have lived in 3 different cities and on two different continents. During this time, maintaining friendships I thought would stand the test of time were challenged. While many passed, there are those that failed. Distance can either make the heart grow fonder, or it can turn a relationship into a mirage. I have made, strengthened, and lost friends during this time because of it. True friendship takes work: it takes calling each other out on your bullshit, knowing that effort is needed by both parties, updating each other on the little and big things in life, and knowing when something feels off. Friendship takes being the bigger person when you haven’t heard from the other person in a while to make sure they are alive and kicking. It takes talking to them outside of the group chat to check on how they are doing on a personal level even if they are participating in the ‘tea’ of the hour.
Friendship takes trying even if you aren’t getting through, but also knowing when to back off and let the person come to you when they are ready. It also means knowing when to let go. When you leave places as often as I do, friendship can mean that your home isn’t a physical location, but actually where you feel the most comfortable and relaxed to be yourself in the rawest form. I have found that it is easy to make friends, but it takes hard work to maintain a friendship. It takes more than a comment on a Facebook or Instagram picture, responding to a SnapChat, or retweeting. Making lasting friendships and keeping them means showing up. Maybe not everyday or even every week, but being there for each other during the good, bad, ugly, and amazing.
Remember, you get in what you put out.
Three women going through life.