I really enjoyed reading Christine’s unemployment struggles on her blog Create and Pray . It inspired me to share my own frustration and insight into the process!
Y’all, I feel like I am slowly losing my mind.This unemployment struggle is too real. It seems like every year since graduating, I find myself applying for thousands (at this point) of jobs only to be rejected. I haven’t been able to find a way to land my foot in my desired career. And before y’all start, I have tried every and anything. I, too, have read books and articles to try to navigate my way through this process, I have sought out professional help in shaping my resume and cover letter, I have attended networking events and conferences in hopes of building a rapport and unlocking the tips to landing a job! I have been referred to a vacancy by a friend who knows a “friend” who knows “someone” who works with the organization I am applying to.
Seriously, I have done it all, and yet I have had no luck. There have been times where I had felt like a complete failure, defeated, and found myself sunken into a really dark place. I mean, how many times do I need to rewrite an entire cover letter for EVERY position that I am applying for, only to not even receive an email for an interview? How many times do I need to be told “you need 10 years of experience” like how the hell am I supposed to get the experience if you do not give me the opportunity,?That requirement always baffles me.
When I do go through the rigorous three step interview process, I have been met with the response “your qualification was competitive but we have decided to go with another candidate”. Trust me, this response isn’t indicative of a lack of skills or education to fulfill the job responsibility. I have realized that especially in the field that I am in, it’s truly about who you know! You need to know someone in a decision-making position, who could push your application forward or vouch for you. So, for us third culture kids- in a new place, whose mom and dad don’t have a little black book of contacts, or who don’t have a large pool of connections to tap into, the search to landing your dream job is a struggle! Seriously, I am beginning to question my career choice. Why couldn’t I stay the “normal African career course”: you know, a nurse, doctor, lawyer, or engineer! Nope I had to go against the grain and choose a field most people haven’t heard of. A career that is incredibly difficult to penetrate. I guess you can chalk it up to my passion and my ever growing desire to be a voice to the voiceless and to challenge conventional wisdom in order to change the world (shrugs).
Throughout this heart breaking and difficult process, I have come to learn that how the next person got their opportunity, or the process they implemented may or may not be right for you. So never compare your situation with someone else’s. As hard as it seems, it’s very important to keep the faith—that’s literally the only thing that has kept me going and has stopped me from truly entering full blown depression. Like Christine said, “you must allow this season in your life to play out”, no pain or difficult moment will last forever. It’s important to recognize that God wouldn’t give you anything that you aren’t capable of handling. And maybe this season is supposed to teach you something and to prepare you for what is about to come. However, this season of my life is starting to feel like an eternity struggle, I hope and pray my breakthrough is coming soon!
Do you share similar frustration? How have you tried to stay sane during this difficult times? Any tips that you would like to share with us on how you landed your dream job?
Three women going through life.