Towards the end of the year my Instagram is filled with people bragging about how many people they lost or ‘got rid of’ this year. But my question is, “how many people did you gain?”.
When you are building your empire it should be about building it with a sturdy foundation. If you surround yourself with faulty people, of course after they show their true selves your empire will start to crumble but when you attract people who stand for something and believe in something; they should remain in your circle. These people will help maintain the sturdy foundation that you have built your kingdom on. The most successful people I know have what they call their personal board of directors. These people are supposed to help you recognize your own greatness and where you are lacking. I believe it is important to never be the smartest person in the room because then you have no one to learn from or to challenge you.
I guess my confusion lies in the question: did you get rid of those people or did they get rid of you? How are you helping the people around you grow? How are you contributing to the growth of our community and society? This year I have expanded my network and met people I would have never imagined. Rome was not build in a day nor did one person build it. If you find yourself constantly losing friends or the people around you, it may be time to take an introspective evaluation of yourself and what you are doing. I am not saying that throughout your lifetime you won’t lose contact with people or find that there are a few bad eggs in the basket; however, if you find yourself in the cyclical routine of falling out with people you thought were ‘down’ for you. It’s time to wake up.
I challenge you to make a list of the people you have gained over the past year and the friendships that went down the drain. Once you have that list, look at what each person is bringing to your life and how you are contributing to theirs.
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