Many times, the easiest route is throwing your hands up and quitting. ‘It’s too hard!’ Is something that kids say all the time, yet we continue to encourage them to persist and tout the benefits of not giving up. However, as you grow older, and start facing the ‘hard stuff’ we tend to cower much quicker than what we preached to others and even our younger selves. Why is this? I believe that the older we get, the more jaded we become by life. Life will always throw us curve balls, however, who you have around you and more importantly your self efficacy - determines how quickly you will either fall and pivot or remain down.
I am convinced that as we get older and sometimes find ourselves with the wrong support system, we tend to give up on the first try or even not try at all. The wrong support system is comprised of people who don’t encourage us to be better; people who want you to stay complacent; people who end up wanting to be you and don’t encourage you to grow to your full potential. These are the people to cut from your life as they will not add to it. Instead, they will continually chip away at who you are and discourage what you can become.
The second determining factor is your self efficacy. Self efficacy is your own belief that you can make it. Most of us start new projects with high self efficacy but then once we hit a roadblock or things get ‘hard’ our determination to succeed waivers and slowly dies. You need to believe in what you are doing - more than anyone else around you.
So after addressing two of the main reasons why people quit - let’s look at why should you never quit. This is the proverbial pot of gold at the end of the rainbow.
Disclaimer: now, do I think that you should continue to pursue endeavors that are clearly not adding value, wasting your time and that aren’t beneficial? Absolutely not! The worst thing is to be that 40 year old guy or woman selling cd’s and claiming that you are going to be a rapper - with no other source of income! No sir or mam, you aren’t the next Susan Boyle! Susan is the exception - most of us are the norm! So it’s damn time for you to get your life all the way together! If you really want to become that rapper and it hasn’t worked out all these years try another strategy; clearly the streets aren’t working too well for you.
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Three women going through life.