Breakups aren’t easy, especially if you have spent years with someone shaping your future to include them, and then all of a sudden, the rug gets pulled from under you. Whether it was your choice to leave the relationship, or you were the one who got dumped, the hurt and pain still feel the same. Trust me as a newly single lady, I completely understand.
The winter months and holiday season sure doesn’t make things any easier, so if you are tempted to rekindle the love you once had with your ex, here are 3 reasons why you should reconsider your decision:
1. Girl! you broke up for a reason: remember, there is a legitimate reason as to why your relationship ended. I know sometimes love makes you look at things through rose-colored glasses, and you might want to ignore the reality of your issues because of how you are feeling right now. But take a step back and realize that going back to your ex without him putting any effort to address or resolve the deep-rooted issues that existed in your relationship will only be a complete disservice to you and your well-being.
2. You will probably feel worse than before: alright lady, I know you are going through emotional hell, complete mental torture and you would like to quench your hurt by reaching out to your ex and establishing a line of communication. But girl, calling him won’t change anything, your issues won’t instantly disappear, and you may not get what you want to hear from him. Doing this only pulls at your already fragile heart strings. So, remove your finger from his name and call your friend instead to vent.
3. There’s someone better out there for you: yes Queen, there’s a man out there praying for a woman like you. Stop recycling what God is trying to replace in your life. Do not settle in life with someone who does not appreciate or value you. Do not suffer in silence because of your fear of starting all over again. If you keep going back to that on-again, off-again lover, you’ll end up missing out on someone who could potentially give you the love that you deserve. Walk away with your head held high, and recognize that you too deserve to be happy!
Remember sis, you are strong, you are fearless and you will make it to the other side!
Three women going through life.