They say your 20s are your selfish years. This is when you should be selfish with your time, energy and love. It is also one of the most critical times in your life. I mean, talk about hustling, bustling and pushing for your dreams and goals. Every choice and decision that you make in your 20s will determine whether your hustle leads to fruition, or whether you settle for complacency and mediocrity. Every move you make during these pivotal years will be a test to your strength and your will to succeed. So, journey through these years wisely!
As I am in my late 20s, and slowly dreading entering my 30s in a few years! These are the 5 mistakes, I would advise people in their 20s to never make.
1. Drop the facades
Instead of pretending to be something that you are not to please friends or garner attention, try spending more time focusing on the things that will dictate your future i.e. your education or career. Trust me when I say this, every second counts; the time you spend pretending and stunting for IG, could be used to make the necessary sacrifices that you need to attain your goals. If you put in the time, you will reap the rewards.
2. Don’t chase Money! Chase your Dreams!
Okay, don’t get me wrong, you need money to survive and having it does makes sustaining your livelihood a lot easier. But when I say don’t chase money, I am suggesting that you instead chase your dreams. It is so important that you use these years to sow and water your dreams. Spend your time and energy on things that you are passionate about; otherwise, you will spend all of your years being hired to build someone else’s dream. You can maintain your current employment to pay your bills ; however, any free time that you have, should be used to create a product or service that adds value, and fills a void in society. Doing this could lead to you living a life full of purpose. Always focus on your future goals and try not to settle for instant monetary gratification.
3. Do not be complacent or settle for mediocrity
Let me say this, there’s nothing shittier then being in your late 30s and working a miserable and frustrating job. So, the time you have now, should not be used to stick to a job because it’s convenient, easy and simple. Force yourself to step outside of your comfort zone, take risks and choose jobs that will challenge you and enhance your skill set with the tools you’ll need to succeed at an enriching career.
4. Choose the company you associate with wisely
This is such an important life lesson that many young people do not learn. The company that you keep truly influences the type of life that you live. This is not the time to be following posers and good for nothing friends. Rather, surround yourself with friends who will build you up, who are influencers and trailblazers in their own rights. Surround yourself with optimistic people, who will help you live a successful and happy life. And most importantly, find friends who will encourage you to be authentic, and fearless.
5. Be careful who you date or fall in love with
Choose your love interests wisely, they will impact your life in unimaginable ways. Remember, you can never change anyone, so if he is not ambitious, driven, and a goal-getter, you will forever remain stagnant if you choose to stay with him. That’s a battle you will lose. So, if you don’t want to financially, and emotionally take care of a man-boy all your life, choose wisely. Your goal is to find someone who you are compatible with. Someone who influences you in a positive way. A man that motivates you to be the best version of yourself. And with whom you can build your empire with. So at all costs, try to avoid getting yourself emotionally involved with a phuckboy! But do you remember that it’s your 20s, enjoy going on dates, meeting different types of men from different backgrounds and with different passions. Only then, will you be able to understand what type of partner you need in your life for the long haul.
Are there any mistakes a 20-something should try to avoid? Share with us below?
Three women going through life.