At some point we all work with people that drive us up the wall. Whether it’s because they are so lazy that it would take more effort trying to motivate them to work than actually doing the assignment yourself. Or they are the person that complains about everything without providing a solution. We have all been there, and I know that we try our best not to get frustrated. If you find yourself ready to strangle your team member’s head at the end of the day, try these five steps to reevaluate the situation in order to keep a peaceful and healthy dynamic.
1. Slowly count down from five or eight. Whenever I am getting stressed out with a team member I take a few seconds to center my emotions and breathing. I find it’s easier to process their questions efficiently.
2. Take a few deep breaths. I don’t know about you, but when I start getting aggravated or upset, my heart starts beating a little fast and my anxiety builds. Before you give yourself a panic attack or run away from the person screaming, take a few deep breaths. With these breaths make sure that you are breathing through your lungs- not your belly and focus on the expansion of your chest.
3. Humble yourself. It is important to remind yourself that you are not perfect, and the same things that are pissing you off about someone, could be making someone else uncomfortable. The whole point of a team project or group assignment is to work through your differences and to play to everyone’s strengths.
4. Figure out your common language. When it gets hard to talk to each other it may be because you aren’t speaking the same language (figuratively). Everyone learns and processes things differently. I have found that people can be describing the same point but are verbalizing it differently so they begin to argue on who is right, when in fact they both are! So, try figuring out how to ‘speak’ the same language. Drawing something out, or demonstrating while doing the work may make it easier.
5. Work to everyone’s strengths. The issue at hand may not be that the person is lazy or hard headed. It may be that they don’t understand or aren’t the best at what is being asked of them. So, instead of kicking someone out of his or her comfort zone, try playing to his or her strengths. Make sure that everyone is equipped to turn in their best work because you are playing by their strengths. That will definitely help make the project flow better and your anxiety levels to drop back down to their normal state.
So, what are your tactics on how to deal with THAT team member? Leave a comment or drop us a note via social media.
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