Gone are the days where you would meet a potential partner/love interest at traditional places like your local church, professional settings or through mutual friends. I mean in the 21st century, we have taken the art of dating and meeting people to a whole other level, thanks to technology. Now, instead of sitting at home alone, wallowing in self-pity on a Saturday night, you can meet the guy of your “dreams” in your local city with just a click or finger swipe away. Depending on if this is your preferred method for dating, online dating can be appealing and may lessen the stress of actually talking to someone in person. However, no matter how many text message convos you have had with him prior to your date or how many of his Instagram and Facebook pictures you have stalked;the obvious remains- he is still a stranger- thus making it a blind date.
Blind dates whether through online dating, apps or social media are really no different from “old fashion” blind dates. So to help you survive your blind dates, here are 3 major keys to save you from those blind date heebie-jeebies.
1. Girl, Be Cautious - Safety First!
Ok so you met this hot guy online (according to his pictures) and he seems to be your dream man (per your text convos between you two). Since you didn’t meet him traditionally, meaning a friend did not hook you up with him, you have to do your research and be cautious. I mean serial killers are out here in these streets, and catfishing is real!
The best way to put your safety first is to:
2. Do away with intimate locations for a blind date
I know you dreamt about having a candle light dinner at a fancy restaurant where you can get dolled up and look into each other’s eyes and laugh the night away but girl hold up! Remember this is just your first in-person encounter so slow your roll..
To avoid the formality that a traditional dinner date may bring, especially when you’re not so sure about the person yet:
3. Maintain Low Expectations and Be Open Minded
Yes, hear me out ladies, I know you got yourself all worked up with excitement because you are about to finally meet the guy you’ve been stalking and chatting with online for the first time in person. No matter how many conversations you have had prior, or what he has told you about himself, or what you have imagined him to be; it's very important that you keep your expectations low so you do not get disappointed in the end. Also, when you have high expectations you might end up self-sabotaging by expecting too much that he can't live up to it. It’s important to go in with an open mind and willingness to learn about your date. If you keep this in mind, you just might be surprised what you discover about your date. This will determine if he has another chance at a second date with you.
Three women going through life.