“Fear is the biggest lie.” -Will Smith
Marie Curie once said, “ Nothing in life is to be feared, it is only to be understood. Now is the time to understand more, so that we may fear less.” Recently, I have been thinking about the concept of fear. We all have things that scare us and that for one reason or another cause us to lie awake at night anxious about what the outcome will be. Whether it’s giving a presentation in the morning, the thought of some day dying, or telling someone you care about them, we allow the fear of the unknown to consume us until it’s all that we can think about.
I’ve watched videos (like the one below), listened to podcasts, and read books about how to conquer your fears. Not because I feel so burdened by my own, more so because I am interested in how others have challenged theirs. What I found is that to propel forward in the face of fear there are three things that you must do:
1. Identify your fears
Whether you decide to list them out or identify them as they appear, it is important to identify your fear. What is actually consuming you? Pinpoint the exact fear, and call it by its name. It doesn’t matter if you have a list of one or 100 by identifying your fears you can move towards understanding them.
2. Understand what about them scares you
The second step is to understand your fear. Why do these things scare you? If you cannot do anything at that very moment to challenge that feeling why are you so consumed with it. Our fear only intensifies with the time we allow ourselves to be consumed by it. Take the time to understand what about your fear scares you.
You and I both know that of course these things are easier said than done, but once we realize the greatness that is on the other side of fear and allowing the idea of fear to consume us for extended periods of time only restricts us from living a full and purposeful life.
How do you confront fear? What tactics do you use to confront your fear?
Three women going through life.