“You must give everything to make your life as beautiful as the dreams that dance in your imagination.” ― Roman Payne
So, you are considering taking a giant leap of faith and pursuing the life or career that you have always dreamt of. The very thought of taking a risk and stepping out of your comfort zone scares the crap out of you. Due to the fear of failing and the uncertainty that we might encounter, we sometimes doubt our own abilities to succeed. Trust me I know the feeling. It’s important to note that when deciding to set your goals, be it personal or professional, there are a few things that you should let go of in order to take the necessary risks needed to pursue your dreams!
Here we go:
Procrastination: This is detrimental to your goals and dreams! The saying, “Time waits for no man.”, couldn’t be any truer because you cannot recover wasted time. It’s important to make a plan and follow through with it. Create a to do list (that always helps me) or insert items on your calendar and cross them off as you accomplish them! Your future self will thank you if you stop procrastinating!
Safety Net and Money: OK this one is tough! I must admit! You need money to survive and it’s much easier chasing your dreams when you have enough money to sustain your livelihood. I’ve always wanted to live and work abroad in a different country for at least 2-3 years but the thought of leaving my cushy safe life and entering an unknown territory scares me. However, I believe now is the time to do so. I’m not married and I have no children, so it’s now or never. Instead of buying a couple of pair of shoes each month and other materialistic things, save up to make your dream a reality. Also, you will never have the exact money you need anyway, sometimes you just have to push your boundaries and take the necessary risks needed, that’s what your 20’s are for. You never know what you will learn or discover along the way!
Stop comparing yourself to others: Seriously don’t let people's posts on Instagram fool you. I know you see your friends chilling in Dubai and displaying their successful lifestyle on the gram but girl don’t believe everything you see or read. Just because you are not moving at the same pace as them doesn’t mean you are not progressing. Stop comparing yourself to others because it’s deadly. Rather focus on what you have going on, focus on your own plans and focus on your dream/goals that are relevant to your life. When you are busy watering your own grass you will have no time worrying about other people’s grass. Ya know what I mean!
Adjusting and tapering your plans/expectations: Ok so I am the Queen of making plans, I mean I make plans for everything in my life! When I was younger I thought that by the age of 25 I would be this top notch career bosslady, engaged to be married to the man of my dreams and living in my fancy condo on the upper eastside in New York or flat in Paris. Yes, y’all I was a little girl with big dreams and a grand imagination. Now I’m in my late 20’s, trying to climb the career ladder, and living in a small apartment with no suitable love interest in sight. Man! How funny is life? What I have learned is that life never turns out the way you hope or how you plan it. It doesn’t mean that you won’t achieve what your heart desires, it just means that it will happen when it’s supposed to. It’s important to learn how to taper your expectations in life and adjust your plans. When chasing your dreams, you sometimes have to go with the flow and be prepared to adapt to whatever life throws your way.
Getting Approval from your Family, Friends or Colleagues: A lot of times the people you love won’t understand why you are choosing to chase a dream that may seem unattainable or too risky, and that’s OKAY. Remember that this is your life and as long it makes sense for you, that’s all that matters. You have to do what you are passionate about and what will make you happy in the long run. Don’t put too much weight on others’ disapproval of your dreams. It's ok for them to share their opinions and concern because they care about you, but remember too many people end up regretting not pursuing the life they dreamed of because of outside opinions. One of my biggest fear in life is having regrets, and one day resulting to saying “coulda shoulda woulda” to my future kids, because I missed the opportunity to lived my life to the fullest. So from now on, I have vowed to myself that for these last remaining years in my twenties I will not let anyone hold me back and I will attain each goal I set out for myself.
If you will take anything away from this post it is that life is short; do not stick to one corner of the earth- sail the seven seas! The world is full of endless possibilities and opportunities. And it’s never too late to #fearlessly go after your heart’s desires!
Good Luck mes amis
Three women going through life.